MALCHUT: TIKKUN CHATZOT תקון חצות – LESSON WITH RAV MICHAEL LAITMAN

Lesson on the topic of “Mingling/Inclusion”

Morning Lesson July 4, 2022 Transcription

Transcription is made from simultaneous translation which leaves a possibility for differences in the audio

Part 1: The writings of Rabash: Mighty Rock of my Salvation (00:18)

1. Rav’s Introduction: (00:35) Meaning that each and every one of us and in general all human beings, there is a spark, a very small one.Thus, we are called human beings. Whomever spark is ready for correction to get closer and incorporate in his  spiritual root, then he reaches this opportunity to connect with other sparks in the group. There are also people who want to attain their spiritual root, their spiritual root, the light, the Creator. Then they begin to gather, to connect between them in order from this gathering of sparks, this assembly of sparks that they gather, they will have this sufficient assembly in order to gather small lights and to feel that they have some illumination, light, from above, a connection with their spiritual root. What do I want to say actually that we have no choice. rather we only must, as much as possible, more and more to connect with our desires the Creator and in this to see our good future. That in this we attain the goal of life, the goal of creation, the spiritual degree. If we connect among us we will reach a spiritual degree.

Meaning in the sensation, inside the connection between us we can attain our upper root. The upper root is common between us and that all in connection, at least with one, outside of me I can already begin to feel the upper root. Thus we go and connect. It is very hard to hear these words. It’s very hard for them to enter us and push us, drive us to the internal correction, eternal connection with the other friends but as much as we learn more, are more present we hear, open up more and more, the heart opens and we do reach this and are ready to connect more between us and in the connections between us we make the effort to perform. There we will feel the upper world, the Creator.

2. S. (04:31) Rav, you said we have no choice, we need to connect our desires with the Creator and in the Creator, how do we connect?

R. This is over time as much as I am in action along with the friends, my lack of success, by my disappointment based on that I have no other manner to reach nearer to the Creator. Then I begin to feel that, nonetheless only in such a manner that I must collect from them their yearnings for the Creator and to even clothe within their yearnings for the Creator and to incorporate in them in such a manner and specifically that by this that I want to be in then in such a manner that I want to push them to connection with the Creator.

I also understand that without me they won’t be able to do this and by this I participate in pushing them to the Creator, in a heartful and internal manner, in spirit and by this I get in connection with them and I attain a true lack that there is between me and them, me and the friends and here I see that as much as the friends, some I am farther from them, some are closer than them. The more we work in becoming closer between us and to the Creator and with the friends who may not feel so close to them specifically in these efforts I feel that here is my work that is real, more true and thus I invest myself there.

S. What does it mean that these efforts to connect with the friends and then you said that the desire connects in the Creator?

R. We want to connect between us in order to connect with a Creator. The Creator is the mutual source of ours that He illuminates to everyone and we want to reach a connection with Him. We cannot connect with Him rather if we will be together because He is our mutual source and as much as we help one another, as much as I enter the friends, push them to this, then I actually perform my actions, my friends are the first nine of my soul. The first nine Sefirot, I as Malchut and then I push them in the connection with the Creator and the Creator illuminates me, to my Malchut. In such a manner I begin to build the connection through the friends to the Creator.

S. It is interesting in relation to the connection through the friends to the Creator. There are all kinds of friends, some are closer and some are more far away, some came today, how do these differences influence the first night like you said?

R. This we cannot now measure, later it will be clarified and I’ll only add a few points here. First of all those who are bigger than their friends, their inclination is bigger .Meaning whoever it is is heavier there will to receive then it is also harder for them to begin the spiritual work. He does not understand anything about connection, he doesn’t hear, he doesn’t feel that you need to connect, Why? For what? What is happening? Why do I need to connect with others, if I want to connect with the Creator?

Then it turns out that he is not capable of participating so we give him time. We do not demand of him to truly participate, we have many such examples over history, our lengthy history of the wisdom of Kabbalah, over thousands of years. We have examples of people who did not understand and were not incapable and did all sorts of things that made it harder for their group. They didn’t agree that they needed to connect and had no choice. Because of their heavy will to receive, they reach things later than others. Specifically in privilege of this, later they rise even higher and they go even farther on the path of the Creator.

The main thing nonetheless is to make the effort to go together, despite that there are those who don’t want, who do not want you are not ready,who are seemingly opposed to the path because they do not understand their big will to receive. Why do we need to concede it , why do we need to let go of it ? Why do I need to connect with others? Why specifically this is what is demanded of them? Thus they understand from all of the wisdom of Kabbalah, just the most proper layers. They talked about different schemas, drawings, lights and vessels, like spiritual physics and they can not transfer it to something emotional but it passes slowly slowly the heart softens.

3. S. (11:54) The connection with the friends that happens only when I’m in the morning lessons when I am in the ten meetings or also just when I’m alone? If so, how to do it?

R. The main thing is before the lesson like you do, to aim oneself towards connection and through the connection to the Creator. You cannot be directed towards the Creator if you do not have a connection with the ten. It’s like you want to aim towards the Creator you do not have it done. You need to arrange yourself, specifically through the site, and that is how you reach it and that is what we need to do before the lesson.

Then in the lesson, all the time, to be aimed towards the Creator and everywhere that we learn, as much as what we learn is aiming us more between us and bringing us nearer more and more precisely and to the Creator more more precisely. As much as we connect between us, we are more and more directed towards the Creator. We cannot do it otherwise, it is like you have some missile, ok, not a missile. Let’s say a telescope and you need to aim it so that all of the instruments there are adjusted and aimed towards the goal, toward the target and only them can you succeed. Thus, the connection between us, as much as it will be more correct for all events, for all conditions, it needs to be more and more precise that we are all directed towards the Creator. Thus we will connect and succeed. We are giving all the conditions, we just need to perform what we were given.

4. S. (14:50) I need to search in each and every friend or the special point that I can grip or is it in general one point in which we all connect?

R. The point where we all connect and that is the unique point in each and everyone of us. That is precisely the point in one’s heart that is directed towards a Creator through the friends.

S. It is the same place meaning that every point of the friend in which I find a connection with him and the common point of all of us that is the same place?

R. Yes, it is the same place. We want to be connected from between us from the connection between us each one anuls himself and connects towards the friends. Thus all of us reach the center of the connection between us. That there are tendencies towards each one but there is nobody there because it is one’s ego, rather the tendencies of each one to another, to connect oneself with a friends and all friends to the Creator. It turns out that we reach the Creator in a manner that is clean from our ego.

Disconnected from our ego from connecting with a friends and in this that we are swallowed in the friends and we want to be together with him and the Creator and it turns out that we are entirely disconnected from our ego and we are only then in yearning to connection with the friends and the Creator. Meaning that we have, when we reach the Creator truly a correct intention. In that we already begin to feel our contact with the Creator that within the friend, within the gathering, the assembly of their friends, we build a place of ours for the Creator and there we reveal him. It is all in sensation and effort that it is already given to us and we just need to realize it.

S. How do we begin this work each time, how do we find this point each time a new?

R. Each time a new, that is exactly what we need to do . We don’t need to be afraid, that we are going to escape or going to forget and that it will disappear from us. We need simply to be ready for everything . I don’t want anything to remain by me from what I had. Only to be connected with the friends and with a Creator, to disconnect from all the past.

5. S. (18:16) I truly want to continue what you said before, to aim for the site to truly feel it in the preparation for the morning lesson. In addition to the request from the Creator that you want to feel the friends to open up your heart to the friends,you also feel each and every friend what is says in the preparation for the lesson because we have a workshop question you feel special power that truly let’s you open up your heart and your heart opens up more and more. What is this power? That suddenly you feel it and have a greater and greater power when you hear each and every friend and what he says?

R. It’s from above how they build your heart anew.

S. What does it mean that they build my heart anew?

R. That the upper light through the Creator, that you still do not feel it actively rather only the results from it a bit that you are beginning to feel that it is built in you a new desire, a new ability, a new sensation and that is how we advance, develop.

6. S. (19:27) If I heard you correctly you said that it is actually better to connect to the friends if you have a difficulty connecting with and you said that the friends has a greater coarseness and that it is harder to keep the framework in the lessons. The question is how much is it worthwhile of the ten to make an effort to specifically connect to those friends who have the great coarseness?

R. No, we don’t connect with the friends with the big Aviut (the coarseness). We go forward in connection with whoever is capable of being in connection from between us to the Creator. Whomever is still not capable, so they join us. Not that we are taking care of them. The question is are we throwing them out for the group because there are those who just cannot hear. We need to keep them because the one the last I came to the group, then there is in this the direction from the Creator above that he has also or them some program, and we need to also give them room, but not that we take into account their tendencies, their directions, their desires because they still do not understand, it is still not revealed in their heart that the connection between us must be from the depths of the heart.

Only from there do we reach the connection with the Creator. Thus, we need to keep them, let them cook and that is also our work and after we will also see how much these people still have the stony heart that is greater than the normal and how much they also give the opportunity to advance. They reveal to us the coarseness in the ten, and there are those who reveal to us the refinement in the ten. The correct connection to the coarseness and refinement builds for us the correct vessel for the revelation of the Creator. As it is written, be careful of the poor from whom form them come the words of Torah.

What does it mean to be careful of the poor? Meaning that they actually do not have force they have no yearning but slowly by nonetheless this and that, they do not have from what to advance. Later on from them, the Torah will come out. Also because as it is said. ‘It was an opposite world that I saw. All those who are in great coarseness are cooking up to spiritual work later than everyone else, and that’s specifically by them we reach bigger lights. Although, Israel as it is written, that you are few among the nations and the few are not by the quantity of the people but rather by vessels, refined vessels that from this they reach spirituality faster than others, according to their vessels. Later on actually, they bring everyone in contact with the Creator. In this we need to understand that the wisdom in the nations of the world believe the wisdom and then do not believe.

Meaning, Israel is called vessels of bestowal, nations of the world, vessels of reception and so we each contact with the Creator through vessels of Israel, vessels of the bestowal but later we enter into this contact the vessels of reception, the nations of the world. Specifically when they reach revelation of the Creator than the Creator is revealed in his true intensity. Thus, the nation of Israel and this is only called a passage, a conduit, that makes a connection, a passage from the Creator to the nations of the world. There is the true great coarseness that when they join, then the Creator can be revealed in a whole and complete manner. That the upper light reaches all the most coarse vessels.

7. S. (24:51) How does a friend who feels the coarseness who has a heart of stone, like a burden on his shoulders, how does he survive the path?

R. We see that the Creator is not throwing him rather he holds them in a group and us we need to give him room and he continues, despite that he may be bothering us here and there but we need his disturbances also to see something that is forming us shaping, us causing us, that our group is turning to be more whole. That has all the different types of coarseness of people.

S. Sometimes we see even according to the data that we have less or fewer friends coming, people seem to abandon the path, what causes that?

R. It really is very much saddening me because it is written that a person needs to do everything but leave ,everything but exit . I understand them, that they stop to feel. all sorts of forces that are pulling us to the goal and so what do you do? There is not want to do. To help them as much as possible to continue but now that they will bother us. Meaning gives them room and in this we need to understand that in this we are also doing a favor to ourselves because without the great coarseness that there is in such people that do not understand. They are still not refined that they cannot feel others and such people specifically, through such people specifically we attain great degrees.

S. I’m not talking about those who come to obstruct, not about them I’m talking about those who feel inside that they are barely hanging in there. They do not have the strength to move on or just stay. What can you tell them?

R. We need to make the effort, first of all to bring them into some work, give them some role so that he can feel how important he is for us. that he will feel responsible, that he will feel that through this work, through this responsibility that he is coming closer to the goal because we have no connection with another wise his vessels are heavier than the rest of his friends in the ten. We need to give him some anchor by which he will perform his role. He’s performing his role in the group in the study and he can advance and we hold him in that.

S. On the other hand, we also feel waves of youngsters and new blood that is entering the system.

R. Yes. I would like to see more but that is something I do feel.

S. When l I look at the screen I see many faces that I don’t even know that I never met them. I don’t even know if I will ever meet them physically.

R. Why do you need to meet these faces? We need to be expecting an internal connection between us.

S. Exactly, so how soo I absorb their desires, how in this lesson do I take the dispositions and desires of all the friends from the world Kli and go with it deeper into the lesson?

R. You do not need to look at their faces, you need to penetrate into their heart into their desire for the Creator and to be together with this desire and thus we all attain.

S. What does it mean to penetrate into their heart?

R. In each one if they have this desire that the Creator is pulling them to him. This is called that they are drawn to the Creator and that the Creator is pulling them. we need, and he shall help his friend to also push each one of us to the Creator. How can I be? I do not have the power to push myself to the Creator, how can I push the friends to the Creator. Here I should understand that each shall help his friend. That we need in such a manner, to perform in mutual bestowal, mutual Arvut , that I am requesting forces from the Creator to  push the friends to the Creator and this is actually my spiritual work. That I, as Malchut and pushing before me, the first nine and in such a manner I advance towards the Creator. In this, that I push the friends and not that I am pulling myself or pushing  myself.  Only in my effort, in prayer to the Creator that He will help me advance the friends to Him. These friends in this become my first nine. and the Partsuf  of the Neshema. Thus I reach connection through them to the Creator.

S.  My concern is to push the friends not absorbed from them but to push them?

R. Yes, what do you mean to absorb from them? I’ve nothing to receive from them. From them what I want to receive is only the lack and then with this lack I can turn to the Creator pray for them and thus I push them forward.

S. To push means to pray?

R. Yes. How else do I have forces?

9. S. (31:34) Thank you for serving us as a method in this way. You said that we need to be ready for everything. I don’t want anything to be left in me, I want to disconnect completely from the past. I would like to clarify this point a little bit. Let us say hypothetically, there are two friends both of them understand this principle, they want to do something good for the ten. In this case what principle should work, which one should annul or maybe the first one remembers that he should not look at the past. How do we do the annulment in the right way when everyone understands it?

R. It is not important, they understand or not understand. I need to work with a ten towards the next degree.

The degree that is before us. It could be that even more to connect, even more to reach the force of the bestowal between us and then we reach in few efforts to such a force of bestowal between us that in it is revealed a Creator according to the law of equivalence of form that also the connection between us will be to such an extent that intense, that the Creator can be revealed there in the sensitivity between us, the coarseness and the connection between us in the point that we make the connection. This already is enough that the Creator will be revealed. The Creator truthfully is already there but that we should feel out of our coarseness that He is already there in the connection between us.

Beforehand we did not have the sensitivity, we could not identify Him. Even now the Creator is between us and how we reveal him? We do not have a vessel. When we begin to connect from between us a few people together, that in this we build the conditions by which we reveal the Creator. It is truly a technical action. There is nothing here that is unique. Nothing special, even in technical stuff, like science technology. We need to sharpen our senses through microscopes, telescopes, even eyeglasses, right? Then we can see the things that beforehand we could not feel. It’s the same thing here.

10. S. (34:28) To continue the question about the presence in the morning lesson, so in our ten today, we are only three friends and the others are friends that I’ve asked them to join so that I will be able to ask a question and talk to you. I have nothing against the friends who do not show up to the morning lesson, but on the other hand we cannot participate in the morning lesson like that because we have a low presence, also during the meetings of the ten. Other tens have the same problems. My question is, we call the friends but they do not come, we try to give them an example but we still don’t see them. The question is will we not be able to advance spiritually because of this, or in any case we do advance spiritually, if we do our work?

R. First of all, gather as much as possible, just like you are now gathering. Each one comes in connection in your home, in your physically each one you’re in your apartment,your home, and that’s already not as in our times with Rabash. I had to come from a different city that was 27 km where we would actually learn, and I would leave the house maybe 40 minutes earlier, half an hour earlier, from the lesson also to get earlier to the lesson, so ultimately I used to leave an hour earlier, until I would reach the lesson. Sometimes it was in the winter, rain, cold, snow and unpleasant states, but nonetheless I would never miss any lesson, any lesson. I think that a person needs to do everything possible, everything possible, just not to lose the lessons.

It is not a lesson, you are reaching a meeting with the Creator because you’re nonetheless coming and you are meeting and connecting with the friends. Although you do not feel like you are connecting with the friends, the Creator knows and understands, and sees you in such a manner and is taking care of you. If you do not reach this connection with the group, that you are looking down on it, degrading it, then you are looking down at the connection with the Creator and thus, that is the result. There is nothing you could do. Try to work according to what you would have awakened, each one of the friends.

11. S. (38:12) You said that during the lesson we need to be incorporated in the desires of the friends, it is not so clear how to work in overcoming when your friend does not have any special desire, but nevertheless there is some importance there.

R. The friend does not have a desire, the Creator has a desire. Then at this point even though the friend does not discover it, he has a desire for connection. There are such you have a desire for a negative connection not a positive connection, they do not want to connect with others they aren’t interested in connecting with others, he’s not pleased with anything he rejects any connection that he has with the friends, he truly disregards it and then we have to understand that what he has within him is the Creator who is awakening him in such a way.

Therefore, we have to approach him in all kinds of different forms for each and every one and help. Help to bring him out of all of these states that the Creator establishes in him, we need to realize that these are the conditions that the Creator is giving us to advance. It is not that we just throw them away from the path and we say go away, we are not willing to tolerate you. No, if we are together and he is one, then certainly then we can take him and specifically in seeing how we can correct him, how by this specifically we can advance. It does not say anywhere that we have to throw away such a friend.

S. Can you say that if the friend overcomes then?

R. That is true if a person overcomes such obstacles in connection of course he is doing great spiritual work, but even if he is not able to overcome for the time being but he stays because he sees that inside of the rejections, just realize what state he is in, here it is from above the burning of the heart so actually his heart tells him go away, what do you need this for, what do you have with his friends, leave them alone, but he remains. That he sees that in only such a way he can somehow come closer to the Creator and suddenly he runs away, you have to try to take him and try specifically with all the coarseness that reveals upon all this coarseness, to come closer to the Creator. In a group there are always such that are more drawn to spirituality, to bestowal and others that are less drawn to spirituality, it depends on the coarseness in a person, how much for the time being advances.

It could be that if he does not feel himself as advancing toward spirituality that he truly has a a disposition towards bestowal and connection and he doesn’t feel himself as connected to the friends in a heartfelt manner it does not mean that he is far away from spirituality but that his coarseness is great, his coarseness is great, so by him revealing such coarseness that such coarseness is revealed to him, maybe he is doing work for the entire group. What am I trying to say in the end? Do not to throw away such people, do not tell them to get out, but to the contrary, as much as possible keep them just make it so that they will not hinder the others but the fact that we have between us such a person, one, maybe even two, we need to learn how do we work with them since they are carrying a greater coarseness in a ten than the others.

12. S. (43:02) There are such states like me for example that I understand that I do not want it, I even say I feel, but this is something really against the connection with the friends in the back of the head I have this thought that this is wrong what do I do with this? Should I leave and not bother the others?

R. Each one should see how he can participate but with the obstructions we don’t understand it, and even with the obstructions we also participate. Therefore even though it seems to us that there is somebody here who seemingly is hindering the ten, he is really against this and that, he is helping us to scrutinize where we are, he is helping us with respect to him to measure how we think how we feel how we connect, and therefore such views such people are very important.

We need to realize that the Creator created the Klipot, shells, for a reason and the corruption of Adam HaRishon, he later revealed these corruptions throughout our whole path until the end of correction because it helps us to correct ourselves and this is why it is written watch out for the poor because the Torah comes out of them. The poor and those who do not have the strength do not have the intellect, they do not have the emotion with which to advance and approach the goal the spiritual goal, but watch out with them because in the end, great coarseness will be revealed in them, this is why along a path they will not be able to advance like everyone else but specifically from them will the Torah come out. In the end, in the attainment of the goal, their vessels will have the most important role.

This is why Israel are vessels of bestowal, and the nations of the world are vessels of reception, and so first the vessels of Israel are revealed GE and later on the vessels of the nations of the world AHP, and specifically the vessels of AHP, when they become revealed then the whole world comes closer to the end of correction and everyone starts to attain the lights of Nefesh, Ruach, Neshama in the vessels of Israel and then later Haya, Yehida specifically in the vessels in the nations of the world. The greatest coarseness exists in the nations of the world. We do not know who they are, it is not according to what is written in some document of who we are, but rather it is according to the coarseness that becomes revealed. That is it.

13. S. (46:39) What do we need to pray for the friend who is bothering, on what point do we need to pray on?

R. We need to pray that the Creator will take care of us, all of us, we do not need to throw away from our boat into the stormy sea anyone, and we need to realize that even though right now he is seemingly drilling a hoe, but he is one of us. Therefore we need to be patient and nevertheless try to talk to him, each one of us or all of us together, in some form we need to approach him and explain and see I’m talking to you about it now because you’re going to stumble across many such states along the way, many such states and we need to work specifically with that, and there is no one who doesn’t, it was not part Guf, the body of Adam HaRishon, but rather if he deserves to come to us then he deserves to be among us. We need not to demand from him the correct form of work but we also need to demand of ourselves how we work on him. So that specifically thanks to the great coarseness in him we will all come closer to the Creator. Without this work we will not be able to come closer to the Creator.

S. So we need the correct intention to change our attitude towards reality, our attitude, this is what we need to correct, how I look at a friend, that I am looking at him with egoistic eyes and I need to correct this attitude towards him? And this too we need to request correction, that I now see these corruptions in the 10 that I see him as bothering. I need to request a correction on that too?

R. I think so try and you will see nevertheless in order to whatever you think now in a few minutes from now you’ll forget it so try to work with all of these things.

14. S. (49:33) It turns out that all the progress of the ten depends on all the friends who are present in the ten and if a person can no longer advance from his own towards spirituality, towards the upper degree, so how in each given moment, the ten earns itself to be suitable for the upper degree that it needs to be in order to advance?

R. I do not quite understand your question. Through connection or maybe I did not understand.

S. Let’s say you are repeating this with the friends, now who have this huge coarseness, all sorts of friends in the ten and it is clear that it is by connection, but how can the ten always be a vessel suitable for its next degree with the next step that the ten always needs to see before itself?

R. The next stage the friends discover it in the connection between them. As much as between, through the connection between them they yearn for the Creator and by this they actually build the next stage, they build the Creator as it is written you have made me. This is how they advance, meaning the group establishes the degrees and it invites, draws the general reforming light, which becomes through the degree that they are forming, it becomes their Inner Light.

S. So why is there such a difference between us within the ten?

R. The Creator arranges it. The Creator arranges these differences, he realizes what differences we will have further on, we will have huge differences. Now it is not yet as to what kinds of differences. It is like you have children in kindergarten, what kind of differences.They’re all very similar to each other, but later on, the personality starts to develop in each one, the character of the inclinations that will be revealed later on. For the time being, you are all truly like a group of children, each one has the same, maybe a little bit different, problems than the others, but actually no, but later it will be so.

15. S. (52:35) If in the ten there are different stages of attainment, how could they reach equivalence of form?

R. I do not know what to tell you. I love your group very much many years ago I visited your place you are the first strong group in South America I do not think that we need more than to be consistent in this study, I would always be interested in seeing you the way I see you now that you are sitting together, some are outside the gathering or in their homes you are excellent, just keep going like this, I love you.

16. S. (54:13) It says be careful for the poor, be careful meaning to be more heartfelt to pay more attention to him?

R. Yes.

17. S. (54:33) Can we succeed also in the meantime if we are only connecting to two friends out of the fifteen in the ten?

R. Yes but they should not isolate themselves inside of the fifteen, nevertheless try to gather everyone and if it is no longer working and then maybe try to bring other people closer, strangers, but it is not good to just stay two. Or maybe in the end they should join another group.

18. S. (55:16) Before we understood that there are separation in the vessels between Israel and the nations of the world, should we have such a separation in the ten, that there are those we need to raise higher? Like we raise Israel?

R. I recommend not to have any separation between the friends, not to divide the group in any way into any segments.

19. S. (55:50) How to help a friend take responsibility and obligation in the group?

R. Through an example the whole of education has to be through example.

20. S. (56:07) There’s a friend from Salt Lake City who’s writing that he is sitting on his own in the room and it happens to him a lot, should he look for another ten?

R. I do not know, everyone is usually sitting alone in the room, what does he want, that the whole ten will come to his place?

S. He has a virtual room.

R. A virtual room, I don’t know about that. I don’t know. I think, well let him ask the friends, the ones that he can trust, what do they recommend. You can ask our friends, those who are here, who serve the whole world Kli.

21. S. (57:06) They were saying that there is a friend who hasn’t met with them since the Corona, is not in the Zooms, not in the morning lesson, should we cancel our friendship with him?

R. I would not cancel the friendship, the membership, maybe a year from now or two years from now he will come back. I saw this with Rabash, with Rabash, there was this table of phone numbers, he had this old phone device on the wall it was kind of a black big one and next to it there was a table with phone numbers, and there were phone numbers of people that I never even met, and they did not come to him, they didn’t visit the center where we were studying for years, and he didn’t erase them, they would stay there. This is why I am saying that it is not worthwhile, it is not good to erase them. Nevertheless as it says, and the cast out will not be cast out from him and each and everyone will return to his root, and so we need to leave a place for them, so he went out for a few years and he’ll come back.

22. S. (58:46) Is it correct to say that Kabbalah does not talk about connection around other desires besides the desire aimed towards the Creator?

R. That is true.

S. So how to be careful not to connect to desires that are different from the ones aimed at the Creator?

R. We do not have that, we need to develop in the group a single principle, our group is those people that want to reach connection with the Creator. We have no other characteristic being in a Bnei Baruch group.

23. S. (59:36) How to relate to what they’re writing here about the ten, a person can stand up to many things, but if a friend wants to put another down, how can you put up with that?

R. Talk to the friends. Talk to the friends and ask them what they recommend to do because you on your own may not see the truth and for sure you never see the truth, so ask them and accept what they are thinking and this will be true.

24. S. (01:00:40) What does it mean friends who are bothering, what is a friend in the ten who is bothering?

R. A friend who is obstructing is a friend who does not speak about the connection between us and the connection with the Creator but rather he deflects us to all kinds of other forms.

S. When is a friend not considered a friend?

R. In principle it is a problem to define it because maybe he is even obstructing, but his obstructions actually help us. They help us in our connection.

S. What is the border, where is the limit, if a friend looks down on friends, and we say don’t throw him out, he’s helping us to advance, but where is the limit that he is already bothering and looking down at us and you are saying we should still support?

R. We do not have the possibility to answer it precisely but nevertheless we need to learn how to suffer it.

S. It turns out that while the friend still does not leave on his own accord we still accept him as a friend?

R. Yes.

S. It turns out that in this approach we are giving people the legitimacy to do what they want.

R. No no that is no. Here we have to explain that up to here, we can suffer it and beyond that we see that it is actually obstructing the quality of the group so we cannot tolerate it.

S. What does it mean that you cancel the relationship with a friend who is bothering?

R. We need to try to keep him on the side because over time, maybe in a few days or a few years, we can see him, that he is now ready to be in the right connection with our group and so we are able to receive him back in.

S. You said in the future we are going to encounter such states, but what states are we going to encounter in the future?

R. It will be people who are against us, that they will rise from within us and we will have to understand that all of these things come in order for us to actually grow stronger upon them.

25. S. (01:03:28) It is clear what you’re explaining, but it sounds like it is for a corrected society. I can absorb these people, these difficulties, because it strengthens them, but in a society that is still building the connection between them still does not have its

R. Try, if you can tolerate them in the group and to nevertheless see in them that they are showing you negative states between you, which you nevertheless have to step upon them and to keep advancing then that is okay and if not, then you will have to get rid of them. Give them some freedom, let’s say you will come to us in a few months for the time being, you can watch us but not operate, not be an active part of the ten.

S. But at the same time it is felt as a loss.

R. So try, what do you want from me, that I will do it?

S. To strengthen us.

R. You want me to create a smooth road for you, is that what the Creator arranges for you, then it will not be a correction.

26. S. (01:04:55) You say that the forces that we have from the inside typically have to do with the expectation of reward, I was curious about the form of the forces that are coming from the outside, how do we recognize those are they also an expectation of pleasure or are they of arbitrary importance, how do they appear?

R. I didn’t understand you. Please repeat.

S. The force that we have from the inside is our expectation of pleasure. If we connect with the others and we receive forces that way, is that also an expectation of some form of reward that we get spiritually?

R. We receive everything in our will to receive that is pulling us towards pleasures and we have to establish ourselves such that we want to advance to the purpose of creation, meaning to in order to bestow, to what will be the opposite of our will to receive and that in such a way, when we aim ourselves, then we can see the state in a way that is more correct and ask the Creator for that, first of all to rise above our will to receive, to see the whole world in our whole life through forces of bestowal, to enter into these forces of bestowal, to be aimed towards the general corrected state where the force of a bestowal will fill up the whole of reality, and then when we somehow establish ourselves in this direction it is like you are shooting with a canon so afterwards, you can reach a state where you can take a step forward, you can advance correctly.

27. S. (01:07:25) There is a phenomenon where a friend in the ten, he says he loves the ten and the path is important to him, but he has obligations in his life now that he has to take care of it, and so he cannot return to study to connection with the ten. How can the ten then take this?

R. First of all we need to check, what is the malfunction in him. Maybe we can arrange it for him, maybe we can talk to his wife or his household and help them this way, and then make a decision. But it is not that we leave him.

S. Do we prove this to him, show this to him in such a manner, be soft to him that the ten always has a place for him?

R. We need to support because if he has some obstruction before him we need to give him additional strength so he can overcome the obstruction. External obstruction or some internal obstruction.

28. S. (01:12:46) Is the connection through the heart and sensation, feeling, so what’s the purpose of the mind, thoughts in connection?

R. Thought is in order to correctly process the emotion.

29. S. (01:13:05) How to melt in the ten to strengthen it, if there are different frameworks with the ten?

R. Break the partitions.

30. S. (01:13:19) It feels like different circles so we can’t even all reach the lesson together.

R. So they need to check how could they even feel the ten but rather what they divide the ten into a few small groups and that is it and it is still called a ten, then there is no ten. So there is nothing to talk about. They are not able to build their spiritual vessel.

31. S. (01:13:45) What gives the yearning for connection with the friends?

R. Yearning to connect with the friends until we reach a vessel according to equivalence of form that is equal to the Creator.

32. S. (01:14:05) Is it okay when the internal connection occurs only with a small part of the ten, but we complete the connection in sensation, internal connection with the other friends, with other friends from other tens?

R. Continue advancing nevertheless in your connection in the ten and with other tens, later on you will see that correct form for correction.

33. S. (01:14:39) You said that during the lesson me and the friends are coming to meet the Creator and we are pushing the other friends forward in prayer, but who do I connect to the Creator with the if the friends do not wake up for the lesson and I do not feel them in the lesson?

R. The lesson is not obligatory for women to such an extent that if someone this is a lesson then she is not in the ten. We have to understand that each and every woman has her own problems at home, at work. A woman is much more tied to this world compared to a man, and that is why we cannot judge women the same way as men. But if we can be if we can connect between us, even sometimes it means we have a ten.

S. What is the advice to connect with friends that cannot come to the lesson?

R. So not within the lesson, maybe there is another time that we connect.

34. S. (01:15:56) When you speak about friends that are finding difficulty in connection and it’s hard to keep them in the group because they have great coarseness, are you also talking about friends that are completely passive and that’s still that don’t say one word for years, are they with us in the boat and part of it?

R. No but perhaps they want to come, they can come to our ten and then we accept them.

35. S. (01:16:32) What should we do in a disturbance in the ten with a friend that doesn’t only come from her coarseness but also medication that changes her and makes it difficult to work with her in the group?

R. That’s a big problem, if she is not balanced by the medication, meaning without the medication she faces all kinds of strange states, then we cannot accept her.

36. S. (01:17:09) In the morning lesson I’m usually with only one other friend, and I’m the only one with an open camera. If it’s only both of us should I join another ten in the lesson or is it less important for the women?

R. It’s less important for women, if you have one friend that’s good, try to expand the circle.

37. S. (01:17:34) We want the men to remember how dependent we are on them, what should be the women’s prayer in order to help all the friends to be in every lesson?

R. Praying for the men is very good. It will advance you as well, and for the men to understand that they depend on you, on women. I hope this is how it will be.

38. S. (01:18:23) What exactly am I asking from the Creator for the friends in the ten?

R. What am I asking, let’s do a survey, what am I asking from the Creator for the friends in the ten and then Bnei Baruch in general, the global organization, what am I asking for?

Workshop (01:19:00): What am I asking from the Creator for the friends in the ten and in the world Bnei Baruch in general?