TUESDAY PRAYER: HOD-TIKKUN CHATZOT תקון חצות – LESSON WITH RAV MICHAEL LAITMAN
READING: BETWEEN AFTER MIDNINGHT AND DAWN TUESDAY
Lesson 3 “Overcoming the Burdening of the Heart”
World Kabbalah Convention “Opening the heart”
October 1, 2023
Transcription is made from simultaneous translation, which leaves a possibility for differences in the audio
Lesson 3: Overcoming the Burdening of the Heart
1. Rav’s Introduction: (01:38) So let’s read first of all Rabash’s short article and then we will speak.
Reading Article. (02:00) “We should understand about the matter..” Twice.
2. R. (07:33) We have here one question: how can a person help himself? Of course there are books, there are various actions that he can engage in but in truth the safest, the surest way especially in those tough places is the friend, only the friend can help him because a friend is on the same level, the same degree, the same nature as man and a person cannot save himself cannot raise himself from his state. So he can do it with the help of the friend, where the friend that is connected to a person, he can add to him, he can add power, energy, uplifted spirits and in this way he saves him. Therefore, in truth if we wish to advance and ascend the spiritual degrees more and more we have nothing to do but to look for friends with whom together each shall help is friend, we can help each other and in this way we will ascend to the degree we need to be in. Okay. There’s no reason to wait for anyone except for the friends. Wait for nothing, the important thing is to support the friends and wait for them to help a person because that’s how the system is set up, that ultimately when we need to come closer to connect together we have no other way of doing it but for each one to help another. And in this way we come to connection and as much as we connect we overcome the ascent and we reach higher towards the purpose of creation. Meaning, all in all, to reach the purpose of creation, to reach the end of correction on a ladder it is possible only to the extent that we connect and we help each other and here we must understand something else as well.
When I help the friend I am not helping the friend, I am actually helping myself because that force that I wish to deliver to the friend so he will rise up his degrees, by that, I am actually raising myself up and in this way each can help his friend to rise higher and higher so that we reach our final goal in a state where each and everyone connects with the other and each one is incorporated in the other and the other is incorporated in everyone else and we become a system which is like Adam HaRishon except the power of that system the power of Adam HaRishon of that system is 620 times greater than when it was before because by creating the system and later breaking it, the Creator gave us an opportunity to connect above our ego, together. Then by overcoming this separation between us, our ego, we raise ourselves to the height of human existence, 620 times greater than how we were in the beginning of creation and that’s what we need to reach with you. So as much as we can connect, inter-mingle, mix up, invest in each other starting with the ten and then more and more in ever extending, ever widening circles, as much as we can, we approach the end of correction more and more and through this we come to Him.
3. S. (14:50) How to become incorporated with the friend’s soul? What is the entry point?
R. The soul is the inner desire of the person and if we which to reach mutual help, I to my friend and my friend to me, then we connect, we come closer to each other, we incorporate in each other and we become like one and we reach connection like that and the purpose of creation is that in the end we will all feel a great deficiency for connecting, in such a way that we will all reach that goal of connection 620 times greater than how we were in the beginning when the Creator shattered the desire that He created into small pieces so as to give us an opportunity, a possibility to feel how much we are lacking in the connection between us and for us to reach that connection.
S. If you can explain, how can we come to mutual confidence between the friends?
R. Confidence is extremely important and we need, we need only to rely on the great ones, our teachers who went through this path, paved the way, laid the spiritual stairs. It’s similar to mountain climbers where those who are at the forefront, the first, second, third, people there are strong and they carve out the steps and we need to follow them and read their writings and do what they are telling us to do and it will happen, it will happen. I am certain that if we do as they write, they don’t hide anything from us, except they don’t write everything in order to avoid confusing us just like with little children. So gradually they speak more and more openly and in this way we will attain all of creation in its complete perfect state; whole state.
4. S. (18:52) I heard that when we connect we overcome or we grow 620 times more than the initial system of Adam HaRishon. What do we add to this spiritual system that allows this growth?
R. Compared to Adam HaRishon we add all of its power, its entire degree because when he was born, he was born as a small structure not lacking any inner surface area, let’s call it. By shattering his soul, meaning his inner power into small fragments and pushed them apart, it turns out that the gap between the parts of Adam HaRishon were each tiny pieces of each one of us and it turns out by shattering and pushing apart all the pieces He gave us the opportunity to, when we connect, when we reconnect the pieces over the level of separation that we had, meaning 620 times more, that means we grow in size like the Creator, if we connect and we build ourselves as one single system. That’s why in the connection between us we reach the level of the Creator, “Unto the Lord, your God,” it is written. And that’s what we attain.
S. Is the meaning of this that when we connect something changes in the upper world as well?
R. When we connect in our connection we begin to attain higher and higher degrees in higher and higher states because we connect the desires to bestow of each and everyone when we acquire such a desire from the Creator and it turns out that the upper Force, the Creator clothes in us and that’s how we reach the degree of the Creator. But it’s not the Creator the way He is, that’s what was revealed, rather way more than that, many folds more.
S. What influence is there in the upper worlds when we connect here? How does it influence the upper worlds?
R. All the parts of the upper world begin to be more connected, more cohesive and then we begin to attain them in a more uniform way in a more complete way and the purpose of creation is for us to combine inside our attainment all of those pieces to such an extent that there will be no difference between the upper worlds, rather they all became as one world; the world of Keter as we say.
S. And when we connect now does that influence humanity?
R. The connection we attain each and every moment through each and everyone and as much as we can connect between us we connect more and more, our connection gives us the possibility of attaining the upper Force, the Creator more correctly, more truthfully, more internally.
5. S. (24:55) Under what condition, let’s say, what state should we be in order to feel that a friend is in a lower state than I am? How can I see this correctly?
R. As much as I yearn for the connection with the friend. We have ascents and descents on the path in the relationship between us, in determining states between us, so it works out that as much as the friend appears to me lowlier, accordingly I can raise him in my eyes and connect even more. So ascents and descents are usual things on our path, typical and we need to be as connected as possible in order to raise them or move through them quickly.
S. Mostly I see the friends in a state of merit and to see them lower, in what condition am I in when I see them lower, to be able to help him to lift him to higher spirits?
R. Helping a friend rise from the state of lowliness to a state of to a higher state, I can do it only by connecting to him, embracing him. He feels that we are together and accordingly we are able to help each other.
6. S. (28:20) How to correctly identify the deficiency of the friend and that it won’t be something that I imagine to myself when I look at the friend?
R. When I am next to the friend I understand more and more how much he might need help, support, my help, my support and then accordingly, I need to help him, I need to bring him closer, embrace him, give him a greater feeling of support and that’s how we help each other with the number of people we have today in Bnei Baruch around the world. If we invest our attention, our power, our desire we can reach success very quickly.
7. S. (29:58) It says in the article that we can help a friend by raising his spirit, the importance of the goal. We see that in practice it is not so simple, when you want to awaken the friend, it doesn’t always work. Is there a certain mechanism that assures us to awaken the friend? What determines the success in raising the spirit of the friend?
R. As much as you try, as much as you connect with other friends in order to bestow or influence that friend, that’s what I can say. But everything is up to you.
8. S. (31:17) If you can give any advice: we have a friend in a descent and we don’t know how to reconnect him to us. We have those kinds of routine steps that we do with the friends, like writing that you are awake in the morning but he doesn’t respond. How to make a fire in his heart?
R. Sometimes you can help and sometimes you can’t. There’s no answer here. If suddenly a person loses his desire for spiritual ascent he can’t see that this is the purpose of his life. It is very difficult to lift him from that state. You need to have clever friends who will deal with him very wisely, psychologically and that also doesn’t always help. You need to share your experience from such cases online. “This is something that happened in our ten, that’s what we tried to do,” and what did help from everything that we tried. Try to share your experience from such cases.
9. S. (34:10) It is said that you should help the friend. Where is the point of prayer in that connection?
R. The prayer is the heart’s inner most desire. If I want something in my heart by that I raise that desire to the Creator. That’s a Prayer. Physically, you also have to help a friend especially when he is in a descent, at the same time you have to understand that the main help is the prayer, the desire in the heart when we raise ourselves and we advance towards the Creator.
10. S. (35:45) When I wish to give my friend high spirits, is it important if she wants it or not?
R. It’s not that important because a person sometimes and we know it about ourselves, he loses his desire for ascending spiritually and he doesn’t care about what is happening with him, what will happen with him, he loses connection with the purpose of creation, with the Creator and he wants nothing. Meaning he falls to the degree of a beast and in order to raise him from such a state we need a mutual power of the ten in order to think of him, to pray for him, to ask the Creator to lift him up, to raise him, to help him, to give him inner mood and then it will happen. Try and you will see that it is possible to do it; it is within our power to do it.
S. Sometimes if there’s anger in a friend and you want to get closer to them that causes more anger?
R. That’s not good when a friend falls, loses his livelihood. Meaning he doesn’t have connection with the Creator and we also leave him in addition to that, that grave harm that we can inflict on a friend and also toward the Creator because he created our society and this system so each can help his friend and we disrespect that, we don’t use the system correctly. So letting go of the friend because he’s in a descent or he is without a spiritual consciousness, he is without spiritual power, he simply exists like all other people, as an animal, as it is written, “and they were all as animals, as beasts.” We however need to try and hold each other up in order to turn to the Creator so He would help us raise this friend.
11. S. (39:40) Getting closer to the friends has a sweet flavor, there’s a lot of joy when the friends connect but in my ten it is difficult for us to stay connected once our meeting is over. We don’t continue the connection between us. How to overcome that state where it is a bit cold in the ten, how to help the friends?
R. Rabash and a few other Kabbalists that I got to know, they had a custom of doing a gathering of friends, Yeshivat Haverim around the table, Tish, to eat together, to sing together. Although neither had that much desire to engage in these things, but let’s say that we have a law, a rule that once a week we get together and we bring some refreshments for the entire ten and the entire ten must make time for it and must attend it. For us it was a Thursday and then like it or not, I have to show up on Thursday at 7 p.m. I think it was for two hours until 9:00 p.m to be with the friends and we had our little drink a L’Chaim and we ate a little something and we sang and read an article and that somehow kept us together. So I would say that it has to happen. I know that there are groups that are doing it more than once a week and this is something worthwhile doing for both men and women. You are unable to do it physically, everyone, you’re not in the same city or same region, you don’t live this way, so try, maybe some here, some there and you connect during the meal and nevertheless there is a connection there. And once a month nevertheless you gather.
S. For a year already we weren’t able to gather the entire ten. To what extent should we determine or obligate the friends to come to the gathering?
R. You need to try, you need to use all the means at your disposal according to the recommendation of Kabbalists; this is a law. A friend should not disrespect such an invitation or refuse such an invitation.
12. S. (44:05) We feel in the convention that there’s a strong desire in the heart but we can’t exactly explain to ourselves what it is. It’s like there’s a question within me but I can’t articulate it. I can’t ask but what exactly is that desire that is inside?
R. Some people are more restrained, some are more open, both men and women, all kinds. But we have to set an example, one should set an example to everyone else to each one and then we will get accustomed to the idea that this is how we should behave even when I don’t want it so much, I don’t understand it so much. I can’t do it perhaps but I do it because I see such examples in the friends. As much as each one can come out of himself and present himself to everyone he must do it with all of his might.
S. Thank you all for being very good examples to us.
13. S. (46:10) It is written in the article, “A concern in one’s heart, he should speak of it with others.” What is that concern in one’s heart?
R. Each of us has to be concerned and make sure that the desires in our heart will be aimed not at ourselves but at our surrounding, those around us. We have a great group, a big group and we have to turn towards each other face-to-face as if, and support each other. Then even though one falls a little, the other one rises a little. The Creator works in this way, in this interchangeable way between us. Therefore, we should get used to thinking about the general collective ascent; that’s our work.
S. Exactly as you say, that’s the state now where I feel in the group. That is the answer to that state that lasted several years. Since yesterday I have been trying all kinds of tactics. Can you perhaps give me some direction? A concern in one’s heart is a concern for the group? I think about it. I try to incorporate it in the ten and I am trying to incorporate the ten in the group and they are two separate things for the time being. I need to connect them. I think about it, is that the correct direction regarding what you said about facing each other?
R. A lot depends on habit. Habit is a special state of our inner qualities that we receive as a given from nature. Therefore we have to try and behave this way as if our desires are aimed towards each other, even if that’s not the case. We have to do this forcefully and then from the state of doing that in potential, we do it in actuality.
S. How not to lose physical time? I will give a short explanation. The Creator gives a state. We lose time. He burdens us, there’s no power to ask but when the power comes it’s as if we missed the boat. What to do so as not to miss the moment and grab hold onto the Creator as you said?
R. I would say that we just have to always always, always be in the connection between the friends to the Creator and all the rest of our life; it just needs to be like a certain addition. I see that everything is open before us. We just have to hold on to each other, closer and to the global world Kli, it is a huge power that we are not using properly and then we will succeed, everything will fall into place.
14. S. (52:11) Does raising a friend’s spirit mean to reveal or strengthen his desires?
R. Yes. His desire towards the purpose of creation, our corrections, that’s what we need. To take the friend by the hand, embrace him and with him make a few steps forward until you see that he can walk on his own and then look for, look for more friends.
S. Is this the possible measurement in this process?
R. Yes.
15. S. (53:41) Can we say on the other hand that the friends who invest all their impressions and aim their actions in dissemination, in the group that gives great confidence and the mutual guarantee, Arvut, which is like a covenant, it gives confidence that when we get some difficult state, it’s like an insurance that the group will support you?
R. Certainly, if we support each other today, then tomorrow we will get the same help from the others.
16. S. (54:45) This is indeed a tremendous power. There is a feeling that we don’t know how to use it. These forces concentrated here now, how to use it properly, correctly?
R. What we talk about here just to be mutually connected to each other and keep connecting more and more.
S. Does it need to emerge externally or be concentrated in there?
R. That should be inside the worldwide Bnei Baruch.
17. S. (55:42) What does it mean to see the greatness of the Creator from the friends?
R. To the extent that friends yearn for the purpose of creation, accordingly they appreciate and crown the Creator, so when I look at them, when I look at them, to the extent that I appreciate them, value them, to that extent I get closer to the Creator through them and thus, we try to overcome everything.
S. According to which actions, by which actions can I make the friends say, “I see it clearly and I feel the greatness of the Creator through the friend.” How to give such a feeling to another friend?
R. That is only if you’re connected to the friends then you can receive a sense of greatness from them.
18. S. (57:25) When I’m in a fall and the friend wants to help me out, what do I need to remember in order to help him and accept his help?
R. To try and be closer and more open to each other, that’s it. These are things that all together are summed up in “One shall help his friend.”
19. S. (58:43) How to understand that we invest in the friend as much as we can and increase our sensitivity toward one another?
R. I didn’t understand, say it again?
S. How to understand that we truly invest in the other as much as we can and how to increase the sensitivity toward the other to understand what he needs at that moment?
R. Well, that depends on your attitude, you have to put yourself in his place, in the friend’s place, and you have to make it so that you feel the other, the friend, and thus you will reach a state where you feel what they feel.
20. S. (01:00:19) I asked the question yesterday, you said that ‘to feel the friend’.
R. Yes.
S. ‘It means to clothe in his deficiency’.
R. Yes.
S. This action of clothing in his deficiency, does it mean to lower the ego and open the heart?
R. How else can I even understand what is going on with a friend, I have to do this.
S. ‘To feel the deficiency’, does it mean to raise the spirit, meaning feeling the deficiency is an inner action?
R. Yes.
S. And then the friend with the uplifted spirit begins to feel that There’s None Else Besides Him and that the Creator is the Good Who does good, that’s what we need to bring the friend to?
R. Yes, you understand everything well.
21. S. (01:02:22) Inside I have great gratitude to the Creator for the possibility to be here, at the same time a burning shame that my friends from the ten did not have the opportunity to be here and feel everything that I feel. How to correctly bring this light into the ten, how to do it so each one of my friends in the ten will feel what I am feeling for them?
R. Try to enter their heart and they will feel it.
22. S. (01:04:17) You said that “when we help the friend we ultimately help ourselves”, so we always stay in the system of the will to receive, how helping the other can become pure bestowal?
R. It happens that way, bit by bit; certainly at first there’s a part there where we think it will help us and we are going to benefit from it too, but later on we try, we reveal that we are willing to do it in such a way that is truly for the friend. This happens when the light of the Creator shines on us and makes us go higher and higher above our will to receive, that is how it will happen, just keep going!
23. S. (01:06:45) Why is it that the friend needs to open her heart and how to convince her to open the heart?
R. Only through my example, that is what you need to do, to set an example for the friends and what you’re doing.
24. S. (01:07:35) Yesterday you said that we have to grab hold of the Creator, when we catch a fish, we need to have fish food or we all have to go to the beach in order to catch the fish; what is the bait by which you can hook the Creator?
R. We have to ‘catch’ the Creator with our desire, with the prayer, with the request to Him, so turn to Him as much as possible in terms of time and the more is the better.
25. S. (01:08:41) First of all I want to thank the Creator and Rabash for opening our hearts through the articles. The article we read this morning, the heart feels that this is a description of the general system of each part in the circle, the feeling of the other. A life that constantly flows inside the system, a feeling of the forces of reception and bestowal through the other.
R. Question, please?
S. Why does the Creator open a person’s heart to such feelings, what attitude does the Creator expect from us toward these feelings?
R. The Creator awaits us to want Him, to open our hearts and connect them and that we will feel in a single, shared, connected heart, all of the power and secrets of creation.
S. Dear teacher, what for?
R. So that we understand where we exist, what do we live for, what’s the purpose of existence and our development.
S. So that we feel a part of the system, a necessary part of the system?
R. Yes.
26. S. (01:11:11) About the system of Adam HaRishon, is every broken part helping the other part?
R. Yes.
27. S. (01:11:39) It is said, “one does not take himself out of imprisonment and only his friend can raise him to a spirit of life”, question, how exactly can a friend help the other and what is the state of ‘spirit of life’?
R. If one person fills the other with hope, with strength, with purposefulness, that is how he takes him out of prison and how they emerge from it together.
28. S. (01:12:57) The emptiness in the heart is due to lack of connection, contact, how should the love be so it will be only one heart?
R. We should always study together and connect together, and each one will share, pass the inspiration to the others and then, bit by bit, our hearts connect to a single heart.
S. If the soul is the innermost desire of the person, then in order to reach the friend, do we need to connect that innermost desire of his?
R. I’m not sure what you’re asking.
29. S. (01:15:01) The meeting today is extremely symbolic: I’m from Kiev, Ukraine, my sister is from Moscow, Russia, and thanks to this Congress we’re opening the hearts between two countries. I’m sending warm regards to Moscow to Kiev to everyone who gathered there! The question is how to hold on to these high spirits so that we’ll always have a desire for love for opening the heart, no matter the state?
R. Question?
S. The question, again, how to hold on to these high spirits so that we’ll always, no matter the state, especially during these states that exist between our countries? When we go to the Congress and there are many disturbances, many obstacles, there is a status of the Creator testing us, ‘do we truly have a desire for connection’, or is it the disturbance and it’s telling you ‘no, you’re not ready yet’?
R. I think you’re being guided correctly and you’re working correctly and ultimately you will understand what is actually being done with you.
S. I would like to thank you, our friend has a birthday today, just give her a hand!
30. S. (01:17:50) We are virtual ten, we came from different countries, not everyone could make it, but the friend who couldn’t make it is asking the question: how to bring how to ask for the friends help, correctly, when you don’t have the strength for it?
R. To fall into the hands of the friends.
S. Our Ten is virtual?
R. So, virtual, what do you think physically to fall in their hands!
31. S. (01:18:44) How to help a friend in order to not confuse, conflate the corporeal part of the friend with the spiritual since the friend’s corporeality is my spirituality?
R. Try to connect as much as possible; in using this law, you acquire his spirituality, too, and then you have a great vessel to connect with the Creator and then you connect with the Creator for two, which is you and the friend.
32. S. (01:19:47) When we connect through the heart, does that mean we overcome the stony heart, that we broke its pieces, and can flow into the friends equally, then we can pray for more sensitivity and when we do this action within our ten, does it help elevate the whole group or just the ten we are in?
R. No, it works in everyone and also, not just all of Bnei Baruch but, the world in general, the world. In doing that we are injecting a positive force into all the systems of nature.
S. How can we overcome negative situations or negative impacts that are created by our loved ones to interfere in our studies?
R. Only to open the heart, to open the heart, all the rest is done by the Creator and also opening the heart, you can also call the Creator to help with that, to the heart.
33. S. (01:22:12) What is the difference in the discernment between losing the desire to the Creator and a simple descent, is there a connection between the two or are they the same?
R. I didn’t understand?
S. The discernment of losing your desire to the Creator and then having a descent, is there a difference between the two?
R. Well, the difference is there, for sure, but it depends on the person, how much he feels it, soon he will.
S. Because sometimes, you invest energy in the friend but I can’t understand, is it, did he lose the desire to the Creator and that friend will leave the path eventually or this friend has a desire for the Creator but he is in a descent? And for me that discernment between the two is difficult.
R. I’m not hearing you so well, translator?
S. I wanted to say, I can’t distinguish, discern, between the friend who lost his desire for the Creator and now he stopped investing on the path or a friend who has a simple descent and he needs powers, the forces from me, the strength. How can I give my forces to the friend if I don’t understand what is happening inside of him?
R. You have to help him ascend in any case as much as possible, to give him an awakening, help him overcome a descent and that’s it. Don’t demand to better, understand this now and ‘to the depth of his soul’ and ‘the intentions of the Creator towards him’, that is not your business. You as an ordinary person have to help him rise, that’s it.
34. S. (01:25:12) We gathered before COVID, a bunch of different groups from Almaty, in the area, and during those restrictions many got used to working in the ten and are, today, ignoring activities of the entire group like common lessons, Shabbat, general assemblies. How to give importance to these physical gatherings?
R. You’re not feeling it yourself?
S. We started now, I guess.
R. You should do a lesson or gathering and on the topic of “how physical meetings advances in comparison with virtual meetings”. Try to do that and come to the right conclusion, certainly in the future at some point, we will meet better, more between us through some means of communication, and that will be with the bigger amount of tens and there will be better communication. There will be other methods of communicating and connecting, completely different, new thing, we’ll see everyone on the same screen, but that is still far. For now we have to spread and publicize our network in the world.
35. S. (01:28:10) The opening of the heart will come from my own personal efforts or is it something the Creator does, is it the same period of time or do I have to ask the friends to pray for me?
R. You yourself have to really try, exert, so that your prayer will be successful and you have to ask the friends to make the request together with you, that the prayer will be mutual and then it will work.
36. S. (01:29:36) The question from a friend in the ten: Are my efforts enough to bring my friends to spirituality, meaning is it enough to receive from the friends, only the yearning and, I have to open my heart and bring them inside?
R. Yes.
S. Meaning my success of my ten depends on me?
R. The success of the ten depends on each and everyone in the ten.
37. S. (01:30:36) We came here five women out of eight, from the state of connection, ascent, from yesterday we received a burdening, how to once again rise from the state and ignite everyone’s heart?
R. We have to understand and tell each other that the state of descent, it’s not a descent but it is acquiring new desires that weren’t apparent before that. Therefore, you should be happy about the state of the descent because it indicates what will come in the future to connect together.
38. S. (01:33:05) Question from the friends in the ten: How to understand that the friend is in prison, that she’s in a descent, she’s not making contact, she’s not asking for help, and this goes on for a while for a long time?
R. Regardless of her state, it doesn’t matter what it is, you just have to think about her, pray to the Creator for her and pull her out of that state.
S. We do it, Rav, we ask, we ask for such friends but they keep growing in number?
R. So you’re not enough, not doing it sufficiently to hold them above the water, the energy that is in your group is insufficient to even maintain the current state, not to mention to rise.
S. What should we do?
R. You have to develop between you, you have to develop between you. I feel that you are in a unique state, you have to support each other. You have to think about all kinds of new actions between you and some additional opportunities, it should be interesting and fun for you to be together! You need to feel that when you gather you rise to a higher degree and the Creator is with you!
S. The question is like this: what to do if all the friends have different deficiencies, different needs and when they all gather together not everyone feels the joy in the connection because one wants to read Psalms, one wants to constantly pray, one wants to read Rabash articles, another one wants to come to lesson and ask you questions. It’s very difficult for us to connect all of us to be in one state?
R. You have to connect between you and to collect such questions and then you can ask me, and then you will discuss it between you so that everyone understands that it is important. And you will find such questions that are important for everyone and then you will have an opportunity to ask and I will answer.
39. S. (01:37:33) I want to thank everyone, all the friends, men, women, and you, Rav, for yesterday, thank you to the Creator for the moment that He gave all of us to connect and to be happy!
R. So you know what is “the breaking of the plate” now, the ceremony?
S. Yes, yes, now I know.
R. It is like we are a broken vessel, symbolically we symbolize the wedding in that form, so you collect all the shreds, too, of the broken vessel, and you build it and build it and build it together as a complete part of the world Kli, very good!
S. So the question: this moment we have a friend who is in a descent, she expressed certain anger because she couldn’t participate in the Congress because of various obligations at work, and now she’s not answering any messages. We want to pray for her but what should we demand of the Creator, precisely, and how to remain constantly in this demand for the friend in addition to the general prayer?
R. First of all, if she wasn’t here but if she’s connected to us, and if she doesn’t disregard the connection with us, then her soul will absorb the same kind of help as if she was here because we are all transmitting the same energy, the upper Force, to her which we receive here among us. So she shouldn’t be so sorry about it, whatever happened, happened; next time we will make all the efforts possible so that she comes and that’s it. What is next time, that could be January or February, when do we have the Turkey Congress?
S. January.
R. January, so four months from now, she can meet with all of us in Turkey and there we will meet with her, and we will pass on all of our feeling and warm heart!
S. And after Turkey, are we going to France?
R. Maybe, I don’t, maybe I don’t know, I can’t promise and I’m not making all the decisions. We did have some Conventions in France and I left with a very good impression from friends. We will see, possibly, this is something you need to agree on with those responsible. I don’t know. Write to the friends responsible and figure it out with them.
S. The whole French Kli is ready to accept you, also the world Kli, we would be happy to do such a thing together with you, L’chaim!
40. S. (01:42:36) The friends are the parts of the soul of Adam, you said before the Congress that “if we asked really hard in the Congress itself, we can connect all the souls into one desire, the desire of Adam”. We’ve been to three lessons, we have half a day left, can we add to obtain this result?
R. That’s in our heart, if you feel that you are a lot closer to those who are here and around the world, all our friends, if you feel that you have more warmth inside towards each other, then you have made a step forward to the extent that you can extract more spiritual strength out of it. That will depend on the effort that each one is putting in, the practical, individual efforts from each and everyone. But in truth, today you have a lot more strength, a lot more forces to extract the spiritual forces and use them for our connection.
Try to think about this, how all of us can extract that energy, that good and absorb it to the point that all our strength and aspirations, all of that will come together and it will all be turned towards the Creator and will force Him to face us, to turn His face to us. Then we will feel how all of us are becoming included in Him and that’s something we need to do completely inside our desires, it is doable.
41. S. (01:46:03) We touched on a very powerful energy and many barriers simply collapsed. The question is how do we reach a state where I see the friend, the ten, as my internality?
R. Well, that is what we need to do, in such a way, we will assemble our vessel from the broken pieces that exists in each and every one of us into a single hole vessel, that will be the final Correction, that’s what we need to do. So as much as possible we need to glue the hearts to each other and thus continue.
42. S. (01:47:28) I am grateful to the Creator that after three years I’m finally here before you with the world Kli! I wanted to ask how to bring high spirits to the friends when we are in the state of a descent? I know this Congress is about to end, how can we take advantage of these states in the Congress for the sake of the ten?
R. You have to always care about how are you connected, how are you connected in a single vessel, single desire, single goals, single ten, all of us all, around the world. And that’s really the most important thing and that depends on you, only. It doesn’t depend on how much one knows more or one knows less, we’re not academics. We want to open our hearts, we want to take care of our heart, that it will open up and the Creator will become revealed in each and everyone’s heart. That is what we need to do so we will be connected after the Congress, all the time, at least two or three times a week, we have our lessons and we have all Gathering of Friends and so forth. And thus we will advance, I hope that we’re getting closer to the goal which will open up.
43. S. (01:50:25) Let’s say the Creator gives me revelation of the ego again and I’m crying in tears, I’m asking to correct it, and my state somehow changes, how does this individual spiritual work influence the entire ten?
R. Of course it does, you are a part of the same group, so when you ask and the group asks, you influence each other. The Creator works between you, most important is to not let go, to not let go of our mutual participation.
44. S. (01:51:55) When we want to help the friend is this my effort and his effort, when he wants to help me in prayer?
R. Of course, it’s all your mutual efforts.
45. S. (01:53:28) I came here for the first time for the Congress, I have never been to any Congress, my first Congress, ever. Something interesting happened this morning, I lost my towel and immediately after losing it the many thoughts awaken in my ego, ‘what to do, who am I with’, and ‘what’ and ‘how’, this layer of thoughts awakened in me, what a great problem it was! After a while, I managed to finally think how much am I getting in this Congress, even physical things: I’m being fed, I’m meeting people, being hosted, how many opportunities I was given, but my mind is locked on one thing, on this unpleasantness and all the rest have failed to appreciate. It’s as if I’m only paying attention to this unpleasant point but when I managed to transition to a state of gratitude to the things that I didn’t notice, I felt this expansion, connection with others. In the beginning I was constricted, I disconnected from everyone, I was very unpleasant, and what was interesting is that later the woman who met me in the first ever Congress called me and she said that she found the shirt that I lost. So this transition from, to state of gratitude, truly revealed to me another angle of the governance of the Creator, also the shirt that was found was an addition. The problem is if I continue with this gratitude the ego places the following problem before me, meaning I’m not advancing, look at this beautiful example, I can also bestow to others how good it is to care for others. My ego says to me, “look at you, you only receive”, so the gratitude is suddenly concealed behind this thought, “what about you” and again I’m constricting it into myself, I’m contracting. I don’t understand how to behave properly, how to go back to being in gratitude and to overcome this strap that I get into the self flagellation, blame.
R. The most correct thing is, as if you leave or throw away all of your thoughts in favor and against connection, distancing, to just ask the Creator, “show me, explain to me, what is my state relation to the group, relation to them”. Because that is what defines my status toward the whole of creation, that is what the Creator has to do for me.
S. Again, so my state toward the group, when I was in gratitude I felt like I was connected with it, that same moment, connected more than feeling the problem. Then I had the thought that I’m receiving, I’m not bestowing and again I fell back into the state of gratitude?
R. All of that will work itself out, it will balance out, things will come together and ultimately it will lead you to that state of one, but that will take more time.
46. S. (01:59:35) I feel it states for me, I feel gratitude and on the other hand, I’m feeling like I’m losing my mind, a little bit! And I feel that the feeling of gratitude is so egoistic and I want to ask if that egoistic feeling is normal? Because I feel on the one hand, gratitude, on the other hand, there is an egoistic feeling, I can’t feel that I will ever come to a state where I’m truly grateful for something, of being in gratitude?
R. Everything will fall into place if you go along with everyone and you will see how you’ll advance together with all of our group. And it will give you the answers to everything because, all in all, everyone is now concerned about himself and asked about himself but no one exists out of himself, no one is separated, no one is alone. We’re always interconnected and therefore we determine the place of each and everyone, each and everyone, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s this one or that one, here or there, “where’s my friend, is he sitting here or somewhere over there in Turkey or Europe or other places?” It doesn’t matter, what matters is that in this reciprocal, mutual way we influence each other, we influence each other. Therefore we will continue and we will learn how together we can each influence the others and together, influence the Creator, and thus we advance. In the meantime we’re concluding the third lesson of the Convention, “Overcoming the Burdening of the Heart”, and we will see each other when?
S. So how can we use this time that we have now between us to open our hearts, one towards the other, in practice?
R. As I want to help the friends and I help in my heart so that he will help me and this way one will help his friend as it’s written we will emerge from exile to redemption. So good luck to you and we will see you soon.